Don’t you hate having to deal with haters?
Alas, the hater community is here to stay; get used to it–and please don’t join their ranks!
Dealing with prickly people who criticize you unfairly or dislike you for no clear reason is a difficult pill to swallow, no matter how thick your skin may be.
I confess that it’s a work in progress for me. Just last week I was on the receiving end of some stuff that left me shaking my head in disbelief. Disbelief turned into sadness, which then morphed into annoyance and anger. I really had to pray about it in order to not get all stroppy and lose my joy and peace. It’s a process, people!
What are some potential ways to maneuver around this land mine?
RECOGNIZE that it’s about them, not you. They have a problem, and you’re probably not the only one they’re bashing. Sometimes deep insecurities are displayed in antagonistic words and actions. Pray for them. They really need it!
REACT wisely; others are watching. The response you give says a lot about you and your spiritual maturity. Remember, this is a test! Don’t let Satan bait you into acting in ways that are outside of your true character in God.
RESPOND with kindness: turn the other cheek or heap coals. I know; it sounds very lofty but you’re doing it not so much for them, but for you. What’s the alternative? To become like them? Choose to do right by them or to do something good for them when the opportunity arises.
REVEAL a forgiving spirit. Hey, don’t kill the messenger; I’m just passing on what my Dad taught me! Deep down you know you need to do this; otherwise you’ll be lugging around a heavy burden of bitterness and resentment for a long time.
ROOT OUT rejection. The fact that people who clearly have issues are rejecting you is no reason to allow them to stir up an overall sense of rejection in your life. Deal with each situation based on its own merits (or lack thereof) and remember Whose you are.
RESPECT God’s Word as the decision-maker. If you follow your feelings, you will react in a fleshly way. This is a good time to put your flesh in Word rehab. Let the Holy Spirit bring to your mind the correct scriptural response to such attacks.
So… how do you handle your haters?