In fact, a bunch of things are better left unsaid. The sad part is, the people who should be shutting up aren’t paying attention. How can they? They’re busy being verbal wordslingers of the worst kind!
Last year when the movie A Thousand Words came out, I wrote a post about the power of words to build up or destroy. Reminded me of some things that I’ve heard people say (sometimes to my face!) that left me thinking: some things are better left unsaid!
Here are some of those gems that leaked out of people’s mouths, along with my thoughts on them. Most of these comments left me tongue-tied when I first heard them. I just couldn’t believe people had the cojones to spit this stuff out. But hey, it takes all types to make a world, no?
Why aren’t you married yet? I mean, you’re not getting any younger?
As if I’m not aware. Seriously? WTH. And why, again, is it your business?
Someone like you should at least have given your parents some grandchildren!
Um, define “someone like me”? And why is it your high calling to speak your opinions into my life?
Why are you trying to lose weight? You’re already skinny!
Thanks for broadcasting my current physical situation, which, by the way, is painfully obvious (I had hyperthyroidism; it will make you lose weight no matter how much you eat).
She’s dark but …
So, despite the abundance of melanin–which clearly is a negative trait, in your mind–there are some redeeming qualities. *applauds with mock glee*
Instead of feeding this cat every day, you could be giving this money to the homeless!
Well, yeah, you’re probably right. Hey, at least it’s only one cat! But I suspect that if I dig up in your bidness enough, I’ll discover some equally heinous habit (The horror! Feeding a cat!) about which I can be equally or even more judgmental than you!
Wow! You have real food in your pantry and fridge!
I can only imagine your surprise. I’m sure you had me pegged as a “Cheerios for breakfast, lunch, and dinner” single lady. *rolls eyes*
Don’t bring home no white boys!
Said to me when I was leaving for university. I can’t respond… even after all these years.
Your hair used to look so pretty! You’re just lazy; that’s why you cut it off!
Said to me very loudly in a supermarket. Mmm hmm, that would explain it. Not the burning scalp from years of using relaxers, or the hair breakage and thinning that was making me half crazy. Ooh, you is smart!
To all of which, I respond with Proverbs 12:18:
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
What sorts of crazy things have people either said to your face or within earshot?