I know you know her.
She’s the sweetest person on the planet. She would give her right arm to get you out of a fix. She’s thoughtful, generous, funny, caring. A friend in your darkest hour.
And then this other person shows up.
Her mouth spews enough foul language to make a sailor blush profusely and duck for cover. She descends into fits of fury, hot bursts of tears, and irrationality. She berates, manipulates, jeopardizes relationships, and is utterly unrepentant about it all.
Welcome to the world of the “girl with the curl.”
Remember the children’s nursery rhyme by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow?
There was a little girl who had a little curl
Right in the middle of her forehead;
And when she was good, she was very, very good
And when she was bad, she was horrid!
A conversation with the “girl” usually goes well until you disagree with her or call her out. She will justify her behavior. She will not listen to truth. She will be wrong and strong.
You will end up frustrated.
You could call her schizophrenic, crazy, hard-headed, or relationally challenged, with more issues than you can shake a shack-shack at.
I try to keep my interactions with such “girls” to a minimum because as good as the good gets, the bad is butt ugly. Flat out!
The “girl with the curl” may seem to be an extreme case, but she’s symptomatic of many who claim to love God but aren’t fully surrendered to Christ. Their flesh is still firmly in control and is acting up.
I do believe there’s a bit of “curl” in each and every one of us. We do have a say, however, in how much of it we keep caged or let loose.
The New International Version (NIV) Bible records 268 references to anger. The one verse that stood out to me was Ecclesiastes 7:9:
“Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit,
for anger resides in the lap of fools.”
Word. Straight up.
Have you encountered the “girl with the curl”? Are you the girl with the curl? Pray do tell!