Why can’t I listen to love songs?


I’ve been thinking about a conversation I had recently with a friend re: musical choices.  I guess knowing that Fred Hammond‘s 2-CD epic, God, Love, and Romance, was going to drop on Tuesday fueled my remembrance of our “talk.”  By the way, Fred did his thing on that album; don’t sleep on it!

Plus, it’s February; Valentine’s Day is around the corner.   🙂


Friend and I are driving along in her car; my iPod is playing.

Me:  Hey, let’s listen to Chrisette Michele!

Her:  Never heard of her.  Is she a Christian?

Me:  Yes, but she mostly sings R &B; and soul and some jazz.

Her:  But she’s a Christian?

Me:  Yes.

Her: But she doesn’t sing Christian music?

Me:  Not most of the time.


Why must all singers who are Christian sing Christian music?  I’m an editor, and neither am I in a Christian workplace nor do I edit Christian material.  Does that make me less of a Christian?  I’ve always wondered why this standard was applied particularly to those who sing.

At the same time, to paraphrase PJ Morton, I’ve gotta ask:  Why can’t I listen to songs about love?  

I’m a born-again, Spirit-filled Christian with no desire to listen to people singing smutty foolishness.  I can’t dishonor God that way and mess up my prayer life.  Sorry.

However, I do appreciate well-written, well-produced, and well-sung tunes that aren’t religious.  

To me, Christians, more than anyone else, should be free to sing about–and talk about, and participate in–love and romance.  Notice I didn’t say sing about hooking up and getting busy… 😉

We know the God who is Himself love.  We choose to walk with Him and follow His Word, which speaks of love quite graphically at times (Song of Solomon, we’re looking at you!)

What do you guys think?  Is secular music off limits for Christians?   Where do you draw the line?  What influences your music choices?  I really want to hear your thoughts on this topic!


  1. hey, I like this post, what do you think of Taral Hicks’ album ‘This Time’ ? I would like to see your view on it, what type of love is being spoken about and if it’s right 🙂

  2. Josephine says:

    Hi Alison ! Sorry for the late reply, thank you for that ! Which conclusions did you come to ?

  3. Josephine, I think I’d put her in the category of Chrisette Michelle and PJ Morton. She’s obviously not singing about agape love on that album, but at least it does not seem to be raunchy or out-of-order material. 🙂
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  4. Josephine says:

    Btw, would you personally think that listening to Taral’s album may affect your own Christian walk in any way ? what’s your take on it ?:)

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